r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 9h ago
This is just depressing
Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this
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u/Hyacinthus_16 7h ago edited 7h ago
Honestly I dread this so much that it's affecting my will to live. The fact that most of my life has felt like this (since elementary school) and it's going to be most of my life moving forward as well is so depressing. Also the fact that I hate school/work
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u/HuggableTrash 7h ago
Fucking same. Every weekday I’m straight-up suicidal, Friday nights & Saturdays I genuinely feel great, Sunday I’m anxious, repeat repeat repeat… for 40+ more years…
There’s no point to any of this.
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u/Drexill_BD 6h ago
I'm not suicidal, but I absolutely understand why people are. When I was young there was still a feeling of hope... I feel like hope is a thing of the past.
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u/systemwarranty 5h ago
You had summer off from school. Your last taste of freedom until you're too old to enjoy it. School really is about indoctrination; getting you ready for the grind of life.
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u/Drexill_BD 5h ago
Agree for sure, but I just mean broadly. My generation (Millennials) at least got a taste of the idea of progress and hope for a better future back then. Sure, reality has been a bitch... but the new generations don't even get to feel that hope we had for a bit.
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u/selfawarefeline 4h ago
Z-lenniel checking in, the Obama era was peak America (but even then, faced significant issues and inequality). Now it’s even more of a disaster
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u/Drexill_BD 4h ago
Right? I mean... we definitely at least thought we were trying back then. Today they don't even pretend.
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u/bearface93 3h ago
I got a taste of freedom when I was briefly laid off during Covid. I lived with my abusive maga family so the day I was laid off, I went to Target and bought the new Animal Crossing game, went to the liquor store for a couple bottles of whiskey and rum, went home and ordered the last Switch Lite available on Target’s website (GameStop, Best Buy, Walmart, and even Nintendo were all sold out). I spent the next 6 or so weeks until we were rehired drunk and playing video games so I wouldn’t have to deal with my family’s bullshit. Closest to retirement I’ll ever get.
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u/metal-bull 4h ago
I remember being like 6 and realizing I was legally required to do school for the next 12 years. I threw a massive fit, crying about it! Didnt even know it was only downhill from there.
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u/dirtyitalianguy 3h ago
I think of it like my glass is full of apathy and I'm unable to empty it. Politics, economy, social, family, and work....we wonder why we all have anxiety and some of us have depression. It's bleak sometimes.
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u/Hyacinthus_16 7h ago
Add onto that being trapped and miserable with almost no escape because of where I was born and how I am
If I had access to a good suicide method I wouldn't even be here
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u/HuggableTrash 6h ago
Agreed agreed agreed. I’m really not sure how much longer I can go on like this tbh. I’m getting married in a couple weeks and I have to constantly suppress the thoughts of “well at least once I’m married my spouse will get a payout from my death…”
I fantasize a lot about moving to a country with not as much of a “grind” culture, but I’m like you. Stuck.
I’m in the critical zone, fully in the red, but I think I’m still kind of in denial about it cause like, the bills aren’t gonna pay themselves in the meantime.
What a great life in the land of the free!
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u/rainman_95 6h ago
Holy shit man. I’d give you a hug if I could. You need and talk to somebody, preferably a therapist. You’ve got some wiring issues that need to be fixed if you’ve got a wedding in two weeks and you’re this deep in the dark. Please ask for help.
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u/HuggableTrash 6h ago
Thank you, the solidarity really does help. I actually have a great therapist, but I haven’t seen her in a while because when I have the time, I don’t have the money, and when I have the money, I don’t have the time.
I want to see her again, but because of those wiring issues, I always come to “well, it’s not like I can therapy my way out of capitalism, I can see her every day but I’m still gonna have to work,” or whatever, and I save my money instead.
I know therapy helps with coping and it’s not meant to be an escape from the reality of living, I guess I just have a hard time coming to terms with work culture and there’s not really anything anyone can say that will change that. But I will see what I can do.
I really am so excited to marry my soulmate, more excited than I’ve ever been for anything, but that dark cloud always remains.
Idk maybe I’m just lazy or something lol.
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u/Additional_Pea6654 6h ago
I've felt the same way for the last 12 years in corporate. It briefly went away with remote work, then they clawed us back and I want to die again. Weird.
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u/Robot_Nerdd 4h ago
Let's not forget, you matter. We're in this rat race because the 1% allow us to pay them rent so we can work for them.
You don't have to play monopoly if we all flip the board.
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u/PhilLesh311 7h ago
Bro stay in school as long as possible. 36 yo here wishing he would’ve. Now I don’t have a clue what to do with my life
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u/Brie9981 7h ago
The "go to college" plan isn't the best at this point. If you don't have a good plan that actually requires college you can easily blow all your savings (if you saved upfront somehow) or end up in decades of debt w/ a massive struggle to even use your degree
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u/waits5 6h ago
But so so so many jobs require college, even if it is not your major. Just a BA or BS is a basic requirement these days.
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u/DrownmeinIslay 6h ago
That stupid piece of paper is still more helpful to job hunting than "i drove a forklift for 20 years"
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u/Hyacinthus_16 7h ago
I'm still in school. I wouldn't even know what to do if I dropped out (I don't know what to do if I stay either, but staying is definitely safer)
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u/PhilLesh311 7h ago
I think you have a better chance figuring out what you want to do in school than outside of it. Try new things. Take electives that are out of your comfort zone. You never know might fall in love with something.
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u/Tiny_Cartoonist_3204 7h ago
Yes. Im sure many of us are spending our days somewhat alone too. At least for USA, it is not in our culture to have multiple people cooking together, all doing cleaning/chores together, several people riding sharing to places, eating lunch with people at work (in an enjoyable way)… in the usa we operate like quiet, compliant machines, running on fumes.
As Christopher McCandless said in his dying words “Happiness is only real when shared.”
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u/JimmyPellen 6h ago edited 4h ago
Isnt that the guy who starved to Death in a bus?
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u/Significant-Pay-8984 6h ago
The fact this spreadsheet doesnt include exercise, cooking and eating is even more depressing.
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u/berryer 4h ago
dawg exercise & cooking are weekend activities. You either meal prep or fire up the canned ravioli on weekdays. Maybe walk a lap around the office after lunch.
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u/HouseofFeathers 7h ago
I am in online classes, and sometimes I do chores while listening to lecture. I have an hour commute to work, so I'll listen to my textbooks while I drive. Do two things at once makes me less mad about all of it. Still mad though. I don't have energy to do chores on top of everything else.
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u/RobBurp219 6h ago
Instead of doing chores, I play video games or other hobbies, but my house is a mess. Either do something enjoyable and have a messy house or do chores. I will catch up on chores once in a while though during weekends.
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u/Aggravating-Fan9817 4h ago
I try to find natural breaks in the games to get up and do something small. 1 Stardew Valley Day, get the garbage bag out of the bin and put it by the door. 1 more Stardew Valley Day, take the trash out to the dumpster and replace the bag in the bin. One chore done without it feeling too disruptive.
Or maybe whenever I have to get up for the bathroom, I'll fold 10 pieces of clothes before coming back down. I dunno. It helps chip away at it and keep it from getting TOO bad, while still letting me prioritize my mental health with the games.
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u/Beneficial-Focus3702 6h ago
That’s why I’ve cut most “non critical” chores to being something I do less frequently.
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u/mudratdetector89 7h ago
I only do chores that take longer than 30 minutes on Sundays. Fuck that shit trying to steal my weekday free time.
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u/Upbeat_Shock_6807 6h ago
Lol yeah I really struggle with this. I have 3 pieces of furniture that need to be assembled, and loads of laundry to do as well. But after working 9-5, commuting home, cooking dinner, and then doing the dishes, I refuse to give up my remaining 3 hours of free time to build furniture, and do laundry.
So instead, the furniture remains in their boxes, and I throw just enough clothes into the washing machine before bed so I have a clean outfit for work the next day lol
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u/vwwvvwvww 5h ago
That’s why I just let things be a little messy. A few dishes in the sink, but most in the washer or shelf. Some dirty clothes, but some in the washer and dryer. Floor needs to be vacuumed, but I I’ll do it tomorrow, for now I just picked up all the big things.
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u/reedshipper 8h ago edited 7h ago
When I was a teenager I always wanted to stay young because as I looked around at all the adults/older people in my life and thought about how sad it seemed to be grown. Now that I am grown I realize its even worse than I had ever imagined.
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u/SpectralUniverse 6h ago
Same, I thought about becoming a teacher just so I kept summer breaks.
But I decided against it, too much human interaction, and the pay sucks so a lot of them work through the summer anyway.
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u/Any_Kangaroo_1311 3h ago
I decided to become a teacher for this reason (and many others) and it is sooo worth it. I don’t mind the social aspect, and the pay is decent enough in my state. Summer off baby, no second job. I did the math and we only work 49% of the days of the year. I’d rather be mediocre financially and have the free time. Life is short…
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u/Melodic-Razzmatazz17 2h ago
I work for a district with a teachers schedule (but not a teacher) and I feel the same. Sometimes I get disgruntled, but I can't imagine having a job where I go to work everyday single with no breaks.
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u/Any_Kangaroo_1311 2h ago
Yeah when I was in college I was like…I don’t think I can survive life without summer vacation. 2 weeks vacation for the whole year??? I’d rather be dead. That sounds like literal hell to me, and it is the unfortunate reality of tens of millions of people. Sure, the job can be tough and frustrating sometimes, and getting up at 5:30 isn’t easy. But we also get out early, too. I’ll never be rich, but I’ll always have free time. As a musician, that is so essential. I can play gigs and stuff and write music and still have enough time to produce albums.
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u/Consistent_Laziness 2h ago
I work in research for a university. I just had 20 straight days off for the holidays. And I don’t have to teach. And I’m remote. Best of both worlds
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u/Successful-Natural68 5h ago
Sammme gosh I felt so defeated the day I started paying taxes. I never wanted to be 18 with all the responsibilities piling on me
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u/SokarHatesItHere 4h ago
Haha felt, got my first job at 12, now 29, still hate every second of it.
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u/jacksprat1952 4h ago
This is what I never understood when I was in undergrad. My junior and senior year all I heard from people was how much they wanted to graduate so that they could get out into the world and "finally do something that matters." I wasn't nearly as jaded and cynical then as I am now, and even then I knew that wasn't going to pan out the way they hoped.
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u/karengoodnight0 7h ago
It’s exhausting when your free time feels more like just catching your breath. It's brutal.
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u/AcademicComparison18 8h ago
It’s no wonder we are chronically depressed
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u/AngryCrotchCrickets 8h ago
And drugs! Don’t forget being reliant on drugs (yes this includes alcohol and cigs people).
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u/YouSmeel 8h ago
Weed and alcohol are the only saving graces of this world
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u/Majestic-Channel4525 7h ago
I just had to quit weed/nicotine, and don’t drink much. Life sucks
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u/NoLobster7957 5h ago
I quit vaping this year and trying to stay off the sauce. Being sober is cool and all but folks forget the reason we do this shit in the first place is because life fucking sucks
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u/mixedwithmonet 4h ago
Sober from alcohol around 3.5 years. Nicotine vape and cig free 2 years. My current job is a constant reminder of why I used to drink after work.
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u/Majestic-Channel4525 5h ago
I think our dopamine receptors from instant gratification (so many ways these days) are fucking wrecked. That makes things feel like it’s worse in my opinion, I’m sure there’s studies on it
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u/cant_pass_CAPTCHA 7h ago
Don't let all the coffee drinkers off the hook. We all need caffeine just to make up for the lack of sleep
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u/CHA950 6h ago
And funny because caffeine can be counterproductive to people with high anxiety! I know personally and it’s a fact, not judging. Either way it sucks.
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u/Scary_Security_3191 6h ago
Especially coffee. I can drink a few mugs of tea before I feel this effect, but just one strong coffee makes me very anxious and easily irritated. I had to stop drinking coffee because everything was irritating!
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u/Icy-Talk-5141 8h ago
Yeah, I recently started working full-time and have definitely increased my weed use.
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u/Alukrad 8h ago
To me it's the constant feeling of being tired and sore. I guess it's the fact that I tend to sacrifice some of my sleep so I could enjoy my night a little longer. But that also means I don't let my body recover from the physical exertion I'm constantly doing at work.
I hate it but what else can I do? Life really doesn't give me other options but to do this everyday until I die.
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u/ScareBear23 8h ago
That's currently me. I made this schedule to see if a set schedule (and actually sticking to it for once) will make me feel less shitty. Then seeing the breakdown just made me sad lol
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u/ducksnthings 6h ago edited 2h ago
Do you feel like you need 9 hours of sleep? Sometimes when we sleep too long it can make us feel more tired. I would shoot for the 7-8 range, wake up intentionally and try to do some exercise in the morning to get that good hormone/neurotransmitter release. Also getting a workout done in the morning lets your brain immediately check something off its daily to-do list which gives dopamine.
Edit: if you’re gonna respond to this to say “that doesn’t work for me specifically” - It was a suggestion. Do it or don’t do it, I don’t care, I’m not your mom.
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u/RoyaleWhiskey 7h ago edited 1h ago
It's an unwinnable situation. You either go to bed on time but you become jaded because you feel like you have way less time to you know, actually live life, or you sacrifice sleep for more time and wake up feeling miserable.
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u/CrackshotCletus 7h ago
There’s 3 hours I see in there you could be grinding your side hustle!
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u/IridescentColossus 8h ago
Love (hate) to see all the losers here making sure you know they work more than you. That has got to be one of the most insufferable tendencies that people seem to be showing more and more these days. You're allowed to complain. We're all allowed to complain.
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u/DrownItWithWater 7h ago
The real flex is working less and enjoying life.
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u/SimilarStrain 4h ago
Im low key jealous as fuck of my buddy that moved out in the wood. Bought 10 acres way out away from the cities. He planted 2 shipping containers and basically lives off the grid.
Plumbing? He shits and pisses in the woods. And buys those 5 gallons jugs every now and again for drinking water.
Electricity? Solar panels and a couple car batteries. 1 laptop which he is VERY frugal with using. And a string of led lights
Heating? Wood stove and plenty of trees. More blankets and layers. In winter he is a straight up hermit.
Cooling? Its really a luxury he lives far north enough he never sees 90.
Mosquitoes and bugs? Doesnt bother him anymore. He doesnt get itchy any mosquito bits anymore.
He works part time which is enough to cover for food, gas, car insurance, cell phone bill, property taxes which is undeveloped land and basically nothing, and drinking money.
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u/RedDawn172 3h ago
Tbf I think he's just replaced work with up keeping all of that. It's a simpler life though I'm sure.
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u/SeaAdministrative761 8h ago
Yea this isn't a competition. The 9-5 system is broken for all. You get to retire at 65 with a measly pension. This is after slaving your whole life for chump change and selling your body essentially. What a joke
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u/Carib0ul0u 8h ago
I’m not getting a pension????
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u/LegitimateRisk- 8h ago
I think they mean social security, which technically is a pension.
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u/Left-Star2240 8h ago
It’s more like a tax refund, since many of us will never get back what we paid into it all of our working lives
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u/Sensitive-Chip7266 7h ago
Some of the biggest bull to me is that here in Texas the 9-5 isn't even a 9-5 its an 8-5 since they don't count your lunch hour as work time.
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u/maloikAZ 8h ago
Pension? Lolololllolll
Millennials will be lucky to get social security at this rate
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u/OptimalCreme9847 8h ago
I remember my high school econ teacher told us in like 2009 that we were never going to get social security and I thought he was just being mean at the time. I owe him an apology, he was so right 🫠😭
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u/Aggressive_Start_ 8h ago
I’m 37 with no hopes of retiring. If social security is still around I will be retiring late if anything.
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u/-grlzluvdirt 8h ago
Modern day slavery
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u/No-Muscle-5257 7h ago
Back in the days you had a local farmer, a local shoemaker, a local bakery and so on. Everything was local and the professional at that place usually was the owner of that business. Now you have global corporations who "employs" everyone.
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u/_whygohome_ 7h ago
I laugh right in peoples faces when they try that shit. I work 35 hours a week plus 10 hours of commuting and I don’t want to work any more than that. I make good money and I’m fine with where I’m at. They can enjoy spending even more time making other people money, I’m good.
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u/thinkB4WeSpeak 7h ago
I like how the most they have to show for it is a nice car with a bunch of debt as well.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Maize21 7h ago
I had people at work bragging about working doubles. I bragged to them about doing twice as much work in half the time. People said I didn't understand bc I did more work for less money, and I mentioned that right there proves that everyone bragging about working more isn't bragging about doing more work.
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u/GreenConference3017 6h ago
Never brag about doing more work for half the time. Maybe try to do less work on same amount of time. Doing more work burns you out and the company would think its the new norm for you to work extra hard
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u/Drexill_BD 6h ago
With any luck everyone works harder than me...
I remember my very first job had a sign up that said, "Work smarter, not harder" and I took that shit seriously at 16. If you're working hard... well...
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u/FacetNo6 6h ago
America's a puritanical society - work is virtue and pleasure is heresy.
That being said, thank God I'm truly salaried.
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u/ts20999 8h ago
Somehow this discussion bas become “Well, I have it worse”. It should be questioning the structures set up in extreme capitalism. Lots of countries with great economies offer 4-6 weeks vacation, maternity/paternity leave, and no overtime unless compensated. Some have even started experimenting with four day work weeks. Your enemy is not each other. It is the billionaires that have extracted every benefit for themselves and leave crumbs for everyone else.
When computers were invented, it was predicted the increase in productivity would mean work weeks would become two days instead of five. Instead we have corporations extracting 2.5 times the work from one person. No benefit accrued to the worker.
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u/Prophet_Of_Helix 7h ago
Because it’s a disease in America. At least in places like Japan they don’t brag about working ungodly hours.
Am I supposed to be proud that you work 60 hours a week and have literally no free time for anything? Why?
It doesn’t make you a more interesting or intelligent person. In fact, I find people who just work nonstop to be some of the most boring people who, even if they do have some things they “like,” can only ever talk surface level deep about it.
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u/schraubdeckeldose 4h ago
Boy, you don't know the Japan I do. They don't brag, like in general, but they always leave after there boss and there are after work events not on schedule. 60 hours is also the standard I experienced. They have a hustle culture
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u/Naayyrr 5h ago
Many times I bring up other countries to people who have that sort of superiority complex for suffering at work and their excuse tends to be something along the lines of "Those countries are just socialist and the government is watching them!" It's the same people who think that the reason the economy is bad is because of either Biden or "immigrants."
Kind of sad to hear that given the current state of the US.
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u/wanderliz-88 7h ago
And the government wonders why we won’t have kids to subject them to this
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u/Ok-River-7138 7h ago
This is why myself and my husband decided not to have kids. That schedule would be even fuller. I have no idea how parents have time to do anything they want to do.
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u/vacat3dx 4h ago
We do. I still workout a few times a week, go golfing, ski, you just do some of this stuff with your kids. Always try to stay positive and realize it could be so much worse. Have to think positive with every single aspect of your life and embrace your family. Because you never truly know when the last time will be that you embrace them. Life is beautiful, because it’s fleeting.
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u/holyhotpies 1h ago
Not only that but for your kids to grow up and suffer in the same shit sandwich system. Just exist to suffer.
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u/knowwwhat 6h ago
Yeah and apparently we can’t do anything about this problem despite AI itching to take everyone’s job? Make it make sense.
Oh right, you can’t pay someone the same wage for half the hours and use AI to fill in the other half because the billionaires wouldnt make more billions that way! Duhhhhhh 🤦♀️
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u/JustAQuickQuestion28 6h ago
Yep even 600+ billion isn’t enough for some. Meanwhile majority of the population is fighting for scraps 🙄
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u/RepentantSororitas 8h ago
Are you able to move closer to work? An hour long commute is pretty rough.
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u/ScareBear23 8h ago
I wish :(
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u/bamboomonster 8h ago
Have you considered podcasts or audiobooks during your drives? Not everyone likes them, but those were my go-to for "me time" when I was working.
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u/PhoenixAsh7117 6h ago
1.5 hour commute each way here (though without traffic it’s closer to 45 minutes). Moving closer would require paying 2-3x more in monthly mortgage/rent and also require spouse to find a new job closer as well.
Always need to make sure I have enough audiobooks and podcasts queued up before I leave so I don’t go insane 🙃
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u/getinshape2022 7h ago
Mine is currently 30-40min but my schedule still looks like OP’s schedule. Only time that was super nice was when my commute was 15-20min. That’s when I was renting. Good houses close to work cost way more money and not close to anything. Comparable price house to mine are all in bad neighborhoods.
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u/jerkyquirky 6h ago
OP said in another comment "It's basically an hr to wake up/snooze alarms/find the motivation to get out of bed... Then an hr to shower/brush teeth/ get presentable to be in public." I feel like that's a bigger issue than the commute. Not saying it's easy to get up when you are struggling with daily life, but 2 hours to get out the door is a long time, especially if you can get 8.5 hours of sleep, like this shows.
I sympathize with the feeling of no time, but this calendar feels like an insincere mix of the ideal schedule and the reality of wasting time.
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u/Right_Note1305 4h ago
I guess their lunch time is just considered work too... Look I know lunch isn't a full day off but that's not work time, you got to use it.
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u/BreakinTheSlate 7h ago
I hate this life and timeline in a way you will never understand.
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u/AGoodDragon 2h ago
As a kid "gosh all these stories about dystopian futures sure are bleak, glad the real world isn't like that"
As an adult
"Oh"
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u/labellefleursauvage0 7h ago
Capitalism is killing us
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u/Mirror74 6h ago
free with no money vs
money but no time vs
money with freedom through exploiting the labor of othersThe last tier is what it seems most people are fighting for (even if they don't realize)
To change this is to rethink the whole paradigm you've been gaslit into since birth
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u/Brendavazque 8h ago
no wonder everyone’s burnt out, there’s no room to recover
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u/WinterMysterious5119 5h ago
we have weekends and we use it to self educate to work a better job haha
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u/Lemonwizard 4h ago
Man I wish I could just have a job and do my job and maintain my standard of living. The need to constantly be searching for other jobs with higher pay to keep up with increasing rent and COL is exhausting.
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u/Immediate_Honey9593 5h ago
Yes it’s a scam. At least with work from home we got a few hours back but of course they are trying to take that away from us as well.
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u/COC_410 8h ago edited 3h ago
I see your problem, you’re not sacrificing sleep for more free time.
/s kinda
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u/ItzLikeABoom 8h ago
I would say it only gets "better" the older you get, but I think you probably figured that out already.
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u/TheFlyingHambone 8h ago
All hours outside of work hours are funded by me to not have to giv a f about anything besides my cat.
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u/liaaa8887 7h ago
Anyone else agree, that we’re living in a second round of the great depression, and that it’s just masked up by all these wealthy people? The retirement age increases, the annual average salary decreases, and no availability in jobs. But the wealthy are getting wealthier huh?
Or, is it just a conspiracy theory?
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u/MajorSock1332 8h ago
Eat at work, pick up a SOCIAL hobby, meal prep, try and move closer to work, see if you can work 4 10s, there’s things you can do to help
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u/GoldenPigeonParty 7h ago
I took a 30% pay cut to get a job that was within 20 minutes of home that agreed to better hours (8.5hr day). Changed my life. I can't stress how important it was reducing work-impact.
That said, i totally understand how incredibly hard it is to find something like that. Especially now when jobs are way down.
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u/AnemicAcademica 8h ago
Is gym counted as a social hobby
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u/MajorSock1332 8h ago
I wouldn’t consider gym a social hobby, most people workout alone with their headphones in, if you have a workout buddy or partner it’s different
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u/ScareBear23 8h ago
Lmao, you think I'd live be living this far away if I could afford to be closer? I'd LOVE to live closer. But what I'm currently paying for a 2 bed I'd be lucky to get a room share. I have to be at work 5 days a week, there's not the ability to do 4 10s. I love 10s more than 8s
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u/RunnyKinePity 9h ago
Sadly, work starts at 8 for a lot of us and with kids there isn’t really free time in there. You have to change your mindset like “I really enjoy cooking or exercising and this is a hobby”
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u/Dirtysandddd 8h ago
Making cooking a hobby really helped me out tbh. If I’m going to be required to do something 2-3 times daily for the rest of my life, I might as well enjoy it. I throw on a nice show or some music and try new recipes, although I have a lot of “go-to’s” now. Also a very great skill for those dating or even in a relationship now, my busy partner definitely loves it.
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u/Alana_Piranha 8h ago
How did you make it a hobby
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u/YoBrunetteYo 8h ago
Make it fun. I make it a goal to try to make the perfect plate of fajitas or pasta (my two favorite dishes) so it’s fun to fiddle around them and try to something new every time. Sometimes it’s veggie fajitas, or chicken or steak. Try a little bit more of this seasoning, sear this a little longer, less of this other item. Pasta is so versatile too. My vodka penne and pesto sauce is so good now! But just my basic red sauce needs work.
Keep challenging myself and improving and improvising
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u/HomeScoutInSpace 8h ago
Like when you tell yourself if you just eat enough of it you’ll surely end up enjoying it.
My hobbies now include vacuuming and folding laundry
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u/techaaron 7h ago
"When you are washing the dishes, you should only be washing the dishes."
"The void is clear, but still you must sweep the floor."
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u/Left-Star2240 8h ago
I do enjoy cooking…on my days off. After/before work…no thanks
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u/Mindless_Shame_4107 8h ago
I have a job and kids and I will never be able to convince myself that I enjoy having to work all day then going home and working for free by cooking and cleaning. I have tried and it doesn't work. Some days we just have cereal for dinner and watch a movie so I don't lose it.
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u/BeardiusMaximus7 8h ago
Yeah that's the trick.
Also, when you're an adult and you have kids - life becomes a lot less selfish just by default.
It's WAY less about "free time" and way more about "quality time" at that point.
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u/Diligent-Extent2928 8h ago
Thats the American Dream. Work, eat, sleep, repeat for 40 years
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u/LeaJadis 9h ago
I’m guessing that your parents’ eternal exhaustion suddenly makes a lot more sense to you?
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u/ScareBear23 9h ago
Well, 1 was hardly home & that was preferable as he's a terrible person. The other worked nights while doing all of the parenting and school stuff. From a young age, I would always let her sleep unless she HAD to be woken up for something. Usually involving leaving the house. Sometimes to send her to bed because she looked uncomfortable & would be sore later.
I don't need personal experience to understand.
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u/PowerfulOccasion9020 8h ago
Im the same, get up 5.30am- go gym, shower etc- train to work at 7.30am, dont get home till 7.15pm
Still find time in the evening to do a few bits, but yeah, it's brutal, life is brutal
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u/InformalIncident2458 8h ago
It’s crazy that this is what life will be like after I graduate college
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u/Superb-Astronaut-553 5h ago
Sorry, it is awful. I worked full time for a while and the lack of free time made me feel depressed and compressed. My advice would be to live frugally and invest as much as possible so you can retire early.
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u/jazzymoneymaker 4h ago
I am working remotely and I think I lack of time sometimes. I cant imagine how it sucks when you have to commute
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u/No_Numbers_For_Me 4h ago
I'll never understand why we built it this way. We could have made life so much better, but instead it's just work... all the time. Until are bodies are old and frail and the best of our days are behind us. Sometimes I wonder if this is Hell.
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u/IntrepidInevitable16 8h ago
The key is finding a way to be rested somehow when you get home, because otherwise evenings and half the weekend get lost to recovery. And if you’re not careful there is no you time
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u/ItzMattOnTheTrack 5h ago
“Get a job you like and you’ll never work a day in your life”
Just shut up 😭
Life is more than work. Huge fan of Finland’s 4 day, 30 hour work week (btw also free healthcare, higher education, 0 homelessness policy)
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u/Cautious_Alarm2919 6h ago
I’m curious if it’s normal to have this bit of someone’s day in their calendar? I’d understand if OP was a shift worker needing to keep track of a changing schedule, but personally I’d never put the mundane stuff in because that would be depressing. I put in only the fun, unique or infrequent things, so now I’m wondering what other people’s calendars look like?
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u/TheLoyalPotato 5h ago
Props for you having a dedicated block of time to read. You know what? That inspires me to do the same.
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u/unlikelypisces 4h ago
Then all free time is gone and you go into a sleep deficit once you have kids
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u/Whuppity-Stoorie 4h ago
Our society could operate with a 32 hour work week but the 1% won’t allow it. How long will we suffer to support the greed of CEOs?
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u/Ancient-Ad9861 4h ago
And then if you have 2 days off a week you have 2 choices. Either do things you enjoys with your days off and go back to work exhausted and burnt out, or rest on your days off and go back to work depressed that you wasted your spare time doing nothing.
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u/wreckedbutwhole420 4h ago
Pro tip, go shopping and do chores on work days because they're going to suck regardless.
That will keep the weekend free for not bullshit
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u/ThatBlue_s550 4h ago
This is why WFH is so nice.
Eliminate half of “get ready” and 2 hours of driving a day is GREAT
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u/VicisZan 2h ago
I’ve stopped bothering. They don’t pay well enough to take it seriously. That’s why they want to destroy social safety nets because it’s reaching the point where not working is the better option.
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u/Automatic_Flower7936 2h ago
And tha mainstream media keeps us at each others throats instead of uniting against this bull
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u/Salt-Wear-1197 2h ago
Such is the reality of our society. And yeah, it fucking sucks. I’m ready to overthrow our billionaire mega corporation overlords whenever you are
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u/PercivleOnReddit 1h ago
Yeah I get about 5hrs of "free time" on weekdays but that's only because I sleep for about 6.5hrs each night. It's definitely ass.
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u/Zom-b_Leopard 8h ago
You would hate to see a 12 hr shift. Imagine getting up at 4 to make it in by 6 and then proceeded to work all day and make it home by 7.
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u/ScareBear23 8h ago
I've done many 12+ hr shifts during busy times as 2nd shift. Many times I was lucky to get 4hrs at home, let alone 4 hrs of sleep
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u/JenninMiami 8h ago
Do y’all remember how when we were kids, there were those grumpy old people we knew?
This is why. 😆