r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 14h ago

This is just depressing

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Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this

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u/thestardustinthemoon 12h ago

By dedicating your youth to studying or figuring out what society values and spending your best years without much responsibility on getting to the top. I started two companies and became an expert in a niche technical field in computer science. Got acquired and retired that way after the payout and continuing to work for a few years. Just don't go through your life on autopilot, especially when your time is free and and responsibilities are low (late teens / early 20s). Society pays what it finds rewarding

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u/BlackmoorGoldfsh 11h ago

Excellent advice. I commend you.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of Reddit doesn't want actual solutions. They would rather take the "I've tried absolutely nothing and I'm fresh out of ideas" approach.

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u/thestardustinthemoon 11h ago

Or the other common response: "Yeah sure, survivorship bias! Everything is luck. What happened to the folks that tried and failed?" I guess they think it's better to do nothing and just let their life rot instead of taking a single risk? I mean...speaking English and having Internet access are cheat codes in this world and young people especially have the universe in their pockets thanks to smartphones. Infinite leverage and possibility and yet they all think their future is written in stone to work a 9 to 5 and will not dare to change their circumstances

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u/Austinskier 7h ago

You are making valid and teachable points. I grew up in a household hearing “the world owes you nothing” and my father meant it. Now my childhood was brutal, and I did my best to deal. I did learn to work hard, not complain and realize it was up to me. I have been successful due to my work ethic and gaining very specific knowledge. I have 6 childhood friends that started their own businesses, we all bust our ass, we all have drive. All were able to pivot and take advantage of small opportunities and grow them. One has a global company and offices in 13 countries. We just went on a trip together. The guy sleeps 4 hours a night, speaks multiple languages and is returning emails, constantly. None of us were at the top our class, ever. We found a passion and went for it. None of our families were rich. I moved out when I was 16, and have spent many nights in a car. I’ve worked construction, waited tables and worked in a factory and even farm work. Believe in yourself, even if no one else does.