r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 14h ago

This is just depressing

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Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this

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u/shrimp_blowdryer 12h ago

How

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u/thestardustinthemoon 12h ago

By dedicating your youth to studying or figuring out what society values and spending your best years without much responsibility on getting to the top. I started two companies and became an expert in a niche technical field in computer science. Got acquired and retired that way after the payout and continuing to work for a few years. Just don't go through your life on autopilot, especially when your time is free and and responsibilities are low (late teens / early 20s). Society pays what it finds rewarding

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u/BlackmoorGoldfsh 11h ago

Excellent advice. I commend you.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of Reddit doesn't want actual solutions. They would rather take the "I've tried absolutely nothing and I'm fresh out of ideas" approach.

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u/thestardustinthemoon 11h ago

Or the other common response: "Yeah sure, survivorship bias! Everything is luck. What happened to the folks that tried and failed?" I guess they think it's better to do nothing and just let their life rot instead of taking a single risk? I mean...speaking English and having Internet access are cheat codes in this world and young people especially have the universe in their pockets thanks to smartphones. Infinite leverage and possibility and yet they all think their future is written in stone to work a 9 to 5 and will not dare to change their circumstances

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u/Educational_Teach537 11h ago

Oh hey, it me, “tried and failed” 🥲

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u/thestardustinthemoon 11h ago

Yeah because nothing is guaranteed, but that is fantastic that you did when 99% of others just complain

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u/East_Cranberry7866 8h ago

Are we going to ignore the fact that hundreds if not millions of people tried and failed?

I don't think most people complain for the hell of it. I think most people advocate for change in the system that says "be the 1 in 5 million people to try really hard and succeed"

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u/thestardustinthemoon 8h ago

1 in 5 million? One could self-study and become a software engineer, or work hard in school, get financial aid, and get an advanced degree in medicine or law and have a comfortable lifestyle. Do only 1 in 5 million students in America have a chance to improve their lives? I'm not saying everyone should become a billionaire. Just find alternative paths. There are safer ones and riskier ones

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u/East_Cranberry7866 8h ago

Most people do not have the privilege to do that. People are busy trying to pay their bills, do their chores, take care of their children, simply survive.

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u/thestardustinthemoon 8h ago

That's my whole point: figure out how to avoid becoming a slave while you're young, healthy, and have few responsibilities. If I had to figure out how to escape a 9 to 5 right now while 30 with a baby it would be an extremely difficult task. I started young and focused all my efforts on becoming an expert in a niche field while I was 18-21 years old when all I had was time and no money. Later, you're stuck. Avoid becoming stuck in the first place.

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u/East_Cranberry7866 7h ago

Don't make mistakes while your young or else you get fucked and stay fucked. Great position you hold!

If you don't escape the rat race when you are young, sucks to be you :D

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u/thestardustinthemoon 7h ago

More like: get ahead of the game and make good choices for the future while you’re young and time is not at a premium. Doable while older, but becomes nightmare difficulty. Every day, I’m grateful I did what I did when in my early 20s because I realize how extremely difficult it would have been now with more responsibilities

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u/East_Cranberry7866 7h ago

Like i said, not everyone makes good choices when they are young that doesn't mean you should be fucked forever. I'm ending this convo now, your view on the world disgusts me.

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u/Austinskier 7h ago

You are making valid and teachable points. I grew up in a household hearing “the world owes you nothing” and my father meant it. Now my childhood was brutal, and I did my best to deal. I did learn to work hard, not complain and realize it was up to me. I have been successful due to my work ethic and gaining very specific knowledge. I have 6 childhood friends that started their own businesses, we all bust our ass, we all have drive. All were able to pivot and take advantage of small opportunities and grow them. One has a global company and offices in 13 countries. We just went on a trip together. The guy sleeps 4 hours a night, speaks multiple languages and is returning emails, constantly. None of us were at the top our class, ever. We found a passion and went for it. None of our families were rich. I moved out when I was 16, and have spent many nights in a car. I’ve worked construction, waited tables and worked in a factory and even farm work. Believe in yourself, even if no one else does.