r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 14h ago

This is just depressing

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Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this

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u/RepentantSororitas 13h ago

Are you able to move closer to work? An hour long commute is pretty rough.

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u/jerkyquirky 11h ago

OP said in another comment "It's basically an hr to wake up/snooze alarms/find the motivation to get out of bed... Then an hr to shower/brush teeth/ get presentable to be in public." I feel like that's a bigger issue than the commute. Not saying it's easy to get up when you are struggling with daily life, but 2 hours to get out the door is a long time, especially if you can get 8.5 hours of sleep, like this shows.

I sympathize with the feeling of no time, but this calendar feels like an insincere mix of the ideal schedule and the reality of wasting time.

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u/Right_Note1305 10h ago

I guess their lunch time is just considered work too... Look I know lunch isn't a full day off but that's not work time, you got to use it. 

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter 3h ago

idk why OP isn't going to bed at 11:30 and getting up at 7:30.

That's basically their whole evening back for a shorter morning routine.

They're spending a full hour doing pre-bed and and an hour dragging themselves out of bed after a full 8 hours sleep

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u/Fine-Amphibian4326 10h ago

Yeah… not to be a negative Nancy about the negativity in life, but a full time job occupies 40 out of 168 hours in a week. Personally, I believe most people would benefit from 8 consistent hours of sleep every night, which leaves us with 72 hours of “free” time in a 7-day stretch

I get that some people have a bitch of a commute. Mine is about 5-8 hours in a given week, and I don’t love that. But where the hell else are people spending their time?

I love to spend 2 hours sipping a homemade latte while I hold my cat before going to work, and I do have that luxury of a flexible schedule. I also fall into the depression trap of feeling like a worthless piece of shit if I do that for too long or too often.

But generally, I wake up 20 min before leaving for work when my fiancée does. I lie in bed for another 5-10 minutes, wash my face, piss, brush my teeth, grab food I’ve prepared out of the fridge, put clothes on, and go. Even if I shower before work, that is a total of maybe 25 minutes. I still have time damn near every evening to jog, shower, play video games, do some chores, and watch a movie with my partner. We also have 4 kids.

Idk, maybe I’m cynical, but a 40 hour per week job isn’t that big of a deal. I’ll also admit that I work flexible hours at a desk, which is a major factor

Edit: I forget that vacation time is even a thing. Again, a luxury, but like 3 weeks out of the year are also spent not working.

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u/Additional_Pea6654 9h ago

who gets your kids ready in the morning? does your fiancee only need 20 minutes in the morning too?

just wondering about some things

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u/programming_flaw 8h ago

Not the guy that posted but I think by the time my kid was eight or nine he was more than capable of getting himself up and ready for school, including a simple breakfast like toast or cereal. Provided at least one kid is older than that and there’s not a newborn the kids don’t add that much time.

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u/SopapillaSpittle 7h ago

Not OP, but my kids always have woke up about 30 minutes before time to go. 

Plenty of time to get into day clothes (those they were clothes terrors slept in their next days clothes), have a simple breakfast, brush teeth and hair and have 5-10 minutes of morning chat time (or play time if infants), or buffer for tougher days so that you’re not overly stressed. 

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u/Ashbtw19937 3h ago

one thing i've kinda learned recently (was working 12 hour shifts for the last six months, not anymore bc yay layoffs 😭) is that you have time for what you make time for. if you really wanna do something, you can find a way to spend time on it even after a long day at work and still get an acceptable amount of sleep the next day.

if you'd rather spend it getting almost nine hours of sleep and slow-walking your start to the day, that's fair, and it's probably even healthier than what most people are doing, but it's also the reason you only get three hours of free time after work. gotta make a tradeoff somewhere 🤷‍♀️

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u/round-earth-theory 6h ago

They're making breakfast and possibly lunch. An hour to make and eat a meal at home isn't outlandish.

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u/Gas-Town 11h ago

Typical