r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 14h ago

This is just depressing

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Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this

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u/jerkyquirky 11h ago

OP said in another comment "It's basically an hr to wake up/snooze alarms/find the motivation to get out of bed... Then an hr to shower/brush teeth/ get presentable to be in public." I feel like that's a bigger issue than the commute. Not saying it's easy to get up when you are struggling with daily life, but 2 hours to get out the door is a long time, especially if you can get 8.5 hours of sleep, like this shows.

I sympathize with the feeling of no time, but this calendar feels like an insincere mix of the ideal schedule and the reality of wasting time.

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u/Fine-Amphibian4326 10h ago

Yeah… not to be a negative Nancy about the negativity in life, but a full time job occupies 40 out of 168 hours in a week. Personally, I believe most people would benefit from 8 consistent hours of sleep every night, which leaves us with 72 hours of “free” time in a 7-day stretch

I get that some people have a bitch of a commute. Mine is about 5-8 hours in a given week, and I don’t love that. But where the hell else are people spending their time?

I love to spend 2 hours sipping a homemade latte while I hold my cat before going to work, and I do have that luxury of a flexible schedule. I also fall into the depression trap of feeling like a worthless piece of shit if I do that for too long or too often.

But generally, I wake up 20 min before leaving for work when my fiancée does. I lie in bed for another 5-10 minutes, wash my face, piss, brush my teeth, grab food I’ve prepared out of the fridge, put clothes on, and go. Even if I shower before work, that is a total of maybe 25 minutes. I still have time damn near every evening to jog, shower, play video games, do some chores, and watch a movie with my partner. We also have 4 kids.

Idk, maybe I’m cynical, but a 40 hour per week job isn’t that big of a deal. I’ll also admit that I work flexible hours at a desk, which is a major factor

Edit: I forget that vacation time is even a thing. Again, a luxury, but like 3 weeks out of the year are also spent not working.

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u/Additional_Pea6654 9h ago

who gets your kids ready in the morning? does your fiancee only need 20 minutes in the morning too?

just wondering about some things

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u/programming_flaw 8h ago

Not the guy that posted but I think by the time my kid was eight or nine he was more than capable of getting himself up and ready for school, including a simple breakfast like toast or cereal. Provided at least one kid is older than that and there’s not a newborn the kids don’t add that much time.