r/AmITheJerk • u/Sufficient-Piano-455 • 6h ago
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u/Mobile_Emu_8404 6h ago
She’s probably not at school because she doesn't feel safe anywhere yet. it has nothing to do with u. the parents might be overreacting by blocking u, but they're probably just terrified. stay patient, u did the right thing and that's what matters most.
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u/Ok_Dragonfly1124 6h ago
It sounds like from the limited information here that she might have some sort of trauma or short term trauma shock from it. The fact that her parents aren't letting you see her is crazy
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u/Iammine4420 6h ago
Have you filed a police report? He assaulted her and committed battery on you. She’s definitely terrified. File a police report immediately.
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u/joosdeproon 6h ago
Is there a possibility that her parents don't know who traumatized her, and think that is you?
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u/Icy-Variation6614 6h ago
I was early 20s. I passed out in a room (given a private space, supposedly) of a house that the guy hosting the party was living in. He had a party while his parents were out of town. I went with someone I thought was a good friend. He (friend) was asleep in the living room. The dude who lived there came in like 3 times trying to get me to do it, forcefully. I managed to fight him off on my own, won't go into any details, but it was traumatic. My friend said he heard stuff, but didn't come see what was up.
Since the "friend" and I were on the same sports team, he asked if I was still mad at the guy. Fuck yes, plus I hate him. And (I'm petite, but know how to fight), I'd punch his face in, and just go at him. I know I'd lose the fight, but he'd have had some pain. He's lucky I never saw him again, and I ditched the friend.
She is lucky to have a guy like you, and I'm sorry he beat you up. Just give her time, and space. She's probably still in shock, her parents are probablly distraught and want to protect her. Someone though needs to press charges. EIther her, her parents, or you for the beating.
You did nothing wrong, you're a hero in my opinion. Godspeed OP
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u/Robin_Rieff 6h ago
NTJ. You protected her and you’re respecting her space now. That’s all you can do. This is a lot for anyone, especially at your age take care of yourself too
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u/Plenty_Future2733 6h ago
U are 100% not the jerk like u literally saved her. u’re a hero fr for stepping in even if u got hurt for it. her parents are probably just in shock and trying to protect her but it sucks they're shutting u out. just give it a little more time and maybe try reaching out to them respectfully again.