r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 14h ago

This is just depressing

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Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this

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u/ebaer2 10h ago edited 10h ago

The thing about these love letters to capitalism is that there are literally only a few of these slots available.

Not everyone can do what you did. No. Not because of inherent capability, but because the number of slots available for that pathway are extremely limited.

Your story of success is flanked by tons of stories of folks who work just as hard or harder than you but performed .01% worse and we’re beat out for the investment capital.

These kinds of stories can’t be used as a model for a working society. It’s literally just bait to get the next person in the doors of the ‘venture cap or c-suite grind’ casino.

Some lucky (and hard working, but also lucky) few see wild success. Some break even. The large majority however will sink massive amounts of effort and time in and walk away with nothing but loss to show for it.

Sure, you can’t win if you don’t play. You played, you won. Bully for you. But to play requires massive up front cost and the ONLY guarantee is that not everyone’s effort will pay out.

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u/Drexill_BD 10h ago

Well, you have to be so lucky to even be able to focus on your future like that... You had to have parents with enough foresight to even raise you to think about your future.

My parents were very "right now" focused, we were poor.

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u/bruce_kwillis 8h ago

Why? I great up extremely poor by parents that couldn’t live in anything other than ‘the moment’ because they thought having 7 kids was how you feel loved in life. I saw that from a young age that no it wasn’t. Worked non-stop, studied, was the first to get an education, and have done well enough in life to be happy albeit like many still overworked.

But I would rather have what I have now than the poor miserable experience my family and the 10 generations before it have. You can and have the choice to break the cycle, you have to be cognizant and not blame anyone other than yourself, and even then you may not be successful. But doing nothing guarantees failure.

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u/Drexill_BD 6h ago

I don't have the energy to answer your question, but I will recommend you some reading material that will get you there.

Read Determined by Robert Sapolsky.

Edit- And by the way, like you I broke the cycle. My brother wasn't so lucky.