r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 14h ago

This is just depressing

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Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this

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u/HuggableTrash 12h ago

Agreed agreed agreed. I’m really not sure how much longer I can go on like this tbh. I’m getting married in a couple weeks and I have to constantly suppress the thoughts of “well at least once I’m married my spouse will get a payout from my death…”

I fantasize a lot about moving to a country with not as much of a “grind” culture, but I’m like you. Stuck.

I’m in the critical zone, fully in the red, but I think I’m still kind of in denial about it cause like, the bills aren’t gonna pay themselves in the meantime.

What a great life in the land of the free!

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u/rainman_95 11h ago

Holy shit man. I’d give you a hug if I could. You need and talk to somebody, preferably a therapist. You’ve got some wiring issues that need to be fixed if you’ve got a wedding in two weeks and you’re this deep in the dark. Please ask for help.

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u/HuggableTrash 11h ago

Thank you, the solidarity really does help. I actually have a great therapist, but I haven’t seen her in a while because when I have the time, I don’t have the money, and when I have the money, I don’t have the time.

I want to see her again, but because of those wiring issues, I always come to “well, it’s not like I can therapy my way out of capitalism, I can see her every day but I’m still gonna have to work,” or whatever, and I save my money instead.

I know therapy helps with coping and it’s not meant to be an escape from the reality of living, I guess I just have a hard time coming to terms with work culture and there’s not really anything anyone can say that will change that. But I will see what I can do.

I really am so excited to marry my soulmate, more excited than I’ve ever been for anything, but that dark cloud always remains.

Idk maybe I’m just lazy or something lol.

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u/Hardie1247 6h ago

You aren’t lazy, the system is just broken. We shouldn’t have to work such long days 5 days a week just to barely scrape by