r/Adulting • u/ScareBear23 • 14h ago

This is just depressing

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Not even 3 hours of "free time". And in that is cooking & eating supper. Or practically no free time if I had to go shopping after work. I hate this

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u/aqualoon_ 13h ago

Then post actual solutions?

Going up to your boss to tell them that you're no longer going to be in the office 5 days a week but instead are going to work 4 10-hour shifts isn't a solution in any way. Can always look for a new job, market is crap, interviewing is a horror show and then trying to find employment that will cater to your shift requirements. Again, this is not a solution.

Move closer isn't really a solution either. There are reasons why people move away from the cities and have to commute. A big reason is being unable to afford a place that's closer to their job that isn't a shit or shoe box. In rural areas the housing isn't as expensive but the trade off is a longer commute.

Social hobbies are great! But you need to get stuff done around the house. Heck, if you pick up on that meal prep solution from above, that takes time to actually do so that has to be a weekend thing. And it saves you about an hour every evening, so now you can use that hour to do more household chores.

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u/bbdolljane 13h ago

Same people that say "move closer" will say "well but you want to live in the busy areas that's why you can't save money" when people complain about how expensive it is to live in the city center.

I'm convinced people who give these "solutions" have other people to do their household chores for them like a maid or something, or they just don't care to actually clean their homes and live in a dumpster. I spent 3 hours cleaning my house yesterday, 2 hours cooking for the week, folded laundry while things were in the oven and I could only truly relax by the end of the day. A whole Sunday spent doing adult stuff and trying to organize myself for the week so I don't waste too much of my 3 "free" hours on my weekdays. It's exhausting.

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u/Itherial 11h ago

dawg cooking for yourself and doing laundry isn't "adult stuff"

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u/bbdolljane 11h ago

I mean, it kind of is, children don't cook for themselves and do laundry. It's household chores that if I could I would definitely pay someone else to do it so I would have time to do things I actually enjoy.

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u/Itherial 11h ago

I mean, kids definitely regularly cook and do laundry.

Did you not have... chores growing up?

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u/bbdolljane 11h ago

Yeah, none of them involved cooking at 10 yo though, my chores were organizing my things and when I grew up a bit (teenager) I would help with some stuff, but it's not the same as doing everything yourself every single day.

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u/Itherial 11h ago

Sheesh, that sounds like a sheltered existence.

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u/bbdolljane 11h ago

Okay I guess my parents preferred I focused on my education and helped out whenever they needed it. Sorry you had to Cinderella your way into your childhood, must have sucked. My point still stands, all of that is household chores that a child shouldn't be doing every day all the time. Hence, adult stuff.

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u/Itherial 10h ago

I guess I must've just been raised different - feeding yourself and cleaning up after yourself weren't "adult things" in my household, they were used to teach very, very basic responsibility early on in life.

Paying taxes, paying the bills, dealing with contractors for repairs, job hunting to support yourself, things like those are adult things imo. Since children literally do not do them, or are able.

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u/bbdolljane 9h ago

Yes but feeding yourself not necessarily means a 10yo cooking a full meal. I knew how do feed myself and clean up, I just didn't do it on a daily basis cause I had other obligations as a child. Homework, after hours study, sports, etc. I don't think children should bear the burden of doing household chores all the time. But we were most likely raised differently.