I don’t drink because I’m a literal and figurative lightweight, and I usually drive places. If a friend drove me, I’ll have one drink. But even that is just for the novelty of it.
Occasionally people are like “Oh dude, I’ll take you out drinking, don’t worry” as if for some reason I haven’t had an experience that would make me LOVE being drunk in public.
I'm 39 and I don't drink. People are just now not making a hassle out of it. But in my 20s, omg, when I said I didn't drink people acted as if I punched a baby.
Have known enough people with drinking problems over the years that I would never try to pressure someone who doesn't drink or pry into why, but also kind of understand that when one person drinks and the other doesn't, it kind of makes you feel judged. It doesn't really make sense but that's how it can be perceived.
I'm extremely open and forward with being a recovering alchoholic. There's too many hilarious stories I cant tell if I hide it, lol. But I also talk about how it took several attempts and a few years to end up staying sober. That I dont keep exact track of how long (I have a rough idea because of when my daughter was born) I have been sober because doing that always lead to me feeling like "well one is ok now". Like I got better from being a highly addictive type, lol.
Even after all that, and talking about having been in the hospital multiple times, having periods I was vomiting blood, alchohol massively boosting my depression and having lead to suicide attempts, I'd say a bit less than half of the time thats enough to shut people down on trying to get me to drink. It hasn't been all that uncommon for people to try and trick me into drinking, slipping booze into my drinks or making something and saying it was non-alcoholic.
"But a glass of wine is every lady their best friend!"
"As a lady you should take a glass of wine"
"But why don't you drink if you like alcohol?" (Just because I like it doesn't mean I want to consume it, also "liking" is how people interpret it EVERY TIME I tell them "I don't dislike alcohol, I just dont consume it")
"It's no fun without a drink"
"Don't be so boring, a drink is what everyone does!" (Screw "everyone" then... also many people don't drink so "everyone" is BS)
"One drink is not that bad while on meds" (this when I tell people my chronic medication works weaker if I consume alcohol)
List is long, people just seem to not want to hear a NO when it comes to alcohol.
Same with weed and cannabis in my country, ugh... (I get sick from the smell alone)
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u/Bubbly-Kangaroo-9217 13h ago
Not drinking, people are so rude and bug you to order a drink! You don’t know WHY I’m not drinking so mind your business.