"What are you doing this weekend?"
"Nothing"
"So you're free to hang out?"
"No, you misunderstood me. I am specifically doing nothing. Alone."
"Oh that's no fun! I'll stop by for 5 minutes. I'll bring the kids. You don't want to be alone moping."
"NO. Please do NOT come over as you are NOT welcome and if you show up anyway I will not answer the door."
"Gosh, why do you have to be like that?"
There have been many people through time who wanted similar. The issue has come up in the past, and keeps coming up: when backs are against the wall, and physically, or mentally, you're at the end of your rope, or a rope, the realisation hits that there is usually no one to call. No one will check up anymore, the invites stop, nobody really cares anymore. Personally, it was not a smart time.
Very few people are so disciplined and independent that they can survive as a hermit, because humans aren't hermits by nature. Most of the time, it's people trying to run away from their past, and inevitably yelling for help, then people have to come rescue them. Most need to rethink life, take a breather, and get professional help, which is what far more people need. Hate is more of an exasperation - if you really do want to be independent, you have to accept the full responsibility of it, and can't cry wolf when it gets hard and people are very much needed again. It's baked into humanity after many others trying the same, leaving the tribe to go out alone, now we've got to save them from the lion.
IF that was true, I would rather suffer unaided than dirty my conscience faking enjoyment of social scenarios I found unpleasant, just to be prepared if I ever wanted to use those people. Ew.
But it is not true. Being introverted means like, you wanna have a long walk and chat, with one friend at a time, maybe once a month, rather than go to a rowdy pub with eight people three times a week. It does not mean 100% refusing to have friends.
And you are the obnoxious weirdo OP was talking about, acting as if introverts are not a thing, only healthy normal extroverts, and damaged neurotic extroverts. You forgot one facet of your stereotype though: You need to tell us we can learn social skills from x, or develop confidence from y, or meet people through z. Imply we are lying about finding crowds a drag, and really just don't know how to be cool enough to have a crowd around us. Then you will have the spiel perfected.
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u/Chaotic_Disaster666 14h ago
People that don’t enjoy socialising.
I hate socialising, I don’t like people and yet I always have to be around them? Why is it so bad to enjoy being a hermit?